So, I log on this morning to find that some sick person in Philadelphia has randomly found a blog post from me from over a year ago. It was a funny little story I wrote as a teenager to make my siblings laugh. A few years later those "Scary Movie"s started coming out in theaters. I never saw them but from the previews I could tell that they were along the same vein as my scary little story. Anyway, this morning, whomever found my blog decided to leave a really disgusting comment (anonymously of course). I am sure it is nobody I know. I feel totally violated. Seriously, I am sick to my stomach that I am posting pictures of my sweet babies on here and then some weirdo just comes and can see it. I know that it could be much worse. And actually I should just laugh that somebody would feel such strong anger when they were searching for scary stories and found mine that they had to react like that. It is kind of funny. But really...??? Yuck.
I try to be careful on here as far as not using real names nor places. But I'm sure that if anybody ever wanted to track me or my kids down they could do it in a second. So, my question is, would any of you still visit my blog if I went private? Should I care if people visit my blog and comment? This is truly my only journal right now so that should be my primary focus. But I've had so much fun feeling so connected with lots of people. Anywho...any advice/comments for me? I should probably just do the safe thing and go private.
Thursday, July 9, 2009
Going Private???
Posted by Perla at 9:41 AM
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I went private for that same reason. The first day I posted something on my blog when it was public some weirdo from India started asking creepy questions about Isabella. I felt so SICK, and scared!!!!! So I immediately went private. I have never regretted it since. If you do go private please invite me:-) I love reading your blog and finding inspiration thru your words:-)
"Flodi"
flirt_ii@hotmail.com
I don't know, but if you do I might feel more like I should. One thing that is kind of dumb is that I would want any of our family to be able to see it if they ever want, but I would feel a little embarrassed sending them an invite. Silly.
I will come read, if you go private and invite me. I don't blame you one single iota if you do. My DH has worked with Homeland Security, the FBI and state, county and city agencies, and it can be very frightening how many sick, creepy people are out there...
I'm not trying to make matters worse by saying that. It is the reality of our times, our methods of communication, and the evils and designs in the hearts of conspiring men
I don't know, I am conflicted about this, I love your writing and it's really a nice addition to the public blogosphere. If you went private the world would loose out perhaps more than you would gain...
I am the opposite extreme where I am super guarded on my blog and end up posting only less-personal stuff because I always imagine that my boss or prospective employer is reading it, because she/he could... But my dear mother posts such details about me on her site that my own blog is a public venue to speak for myself.
I like the idea of things being accessible to all. But I would still visit you if you were private, but I never would have been invited in the first place if you hadn't started public.
That's all from me!~
Wow Finn is so big, he is one handsome little guy! I'd keep reading if you went private!
Oh Perla! I have had this same dilemna over and over again! I have been so close, so many times, to being private. Ultimately, I have stayed open but have my blog unsearchable (you do that in settings, just FYI) and I blog with the codenames which often feels funny and dumb but it makes right. I almost went private about 4 or so months ago but then a friend (one not of our faith) and I had a deep religious conversation about something I had casually mentioned on my blog and it was so rewarding to know that something I said made a difference to her. After thinking long and hard about the situation, I decided to stay public, not because I want to convert the world but because I felt that if my words opened the doors to someone understanding something about their own faith and convictions, especially this dear friend, then it was worth the "risk". As you know, I also have my other little blog that I have kept private - the Tia Juana Unleashed blog. It is my little "small plates" blog where I record my more private, spiritual thoughts that sometimes I do not feel comfortable in sharing with the world at large. Someone once told me that some personal experiences were meant to be personal and so to guard those closely by sharing them appropriately. I want to record them for me and my posterity, so I record them on the other blog and then when I make my blog books, I combine the two blogs. It works great and I feel like all of my purposes are fulfilled for the reasons that are important to me. I will still read you if you are private but I hope you will not just because it's more fun to do this all together and not have to 'log in'. Also, my mother told me she didn't know how to log in - so that was one less reader, an important one for whom I often post. Good luck with your decision. By the way, when did your trade your baby for an almost toddler! Yes, he has grown almost in a day! Too cute!
PS: I've missed your regular posting but who am I to talk, I was MIA for several weeks as well.
I think that if anything happened like that to me I would go private. I don't know if that is a good way to look at it or not, but I haven't gone private because nothing like that has ever happened! But the second it does I am going private.
I would probably feel the same way. I don't know what the right answer is-there are pro's and con's to both. Like someone else mentioned mine is set to where it won't show up in searches (I think-need to double check). Whatever you decide I would love to keep reading even though I don't know you in "real" life. I love Perla's Parlor.
I would go private. Anyone who cares will ask for permission to keep reading. Anyone who doesn't matter won't ask - and doesn't need to see anyway. Keep yourself & your precious family as safe as you can. I'd love to keep reading about your precious family - and my good friend Nancy's too.
:)
Mandy
Let's go privates!
I can't believe someone would leave an inappropriate response on your blog. Shame on them. ;)
P - we stayed at The Washington Inn and Suites in Keystone. It was very clean and newly remodeled. And it was fairly reasonably priced. We got the largest family suite which had 2 Queens, 1 King, a pull-out, a kitchenette, and a big jaquizzi tub for under $200. Compared to the dinky dinks we stayed in other places for the same price, it was a good value. I'm sure they have smaller rooms for your littler troop as well.
It is so sad that we, meaning you and all of us who love to share, have to be so careful. I do not blame you for wanting to go private; I would love to be allowed to read your blog if you do. You have a very special spirit that I enjoy feeling as I read what you have written.
Lynnae
PS I'm Lori's aunt just so you know.
Thats so upsetting! I'm so sorry. My sister's friend had a blog for a long time and one day some random stranger at the store asked how they were liking their new car (apparently she had posted a picture of it on their blog), anyways it creeped her out so bad she deleted her blog. You definitely shouldn't delete yours of course:) I have really enjoyed reading it and getting to know you better and I would for sure continue to read if it were private. Love you!
-your favorite soon to be niece:)
That is so scary. Ihave to say though I wouldn't let them win by going private. I also found your blog through reading Tash's blog and I feel like I have really grown spirtually since starting to read your blog. We are different faiths and I have gained a deeper understanding of your faith through your blog...I've also learned a lot about Haiti that I didn't know before. I think you have things to share with the general public and that wouldn't be possible if you were to go private....just some thoughts..
Your thoughts are the same thoughts I have had also. I was going to at one point, but than I realized I had to type in everyones address individually for them to visit and was overwhelmed, anywho I am most likely going to also. But yes of course I would still visit!!
Perla,
I have Ogden ties and happened upon your blog from another blog that was linked from another blog, and another blog, etc. I've just spent nearly an hour reading your blog and I have to say I think you are a truly inspiring woman!
I wouldn't blame you for going private - heck, my blog is private! But...people like me would miss out on the opportunity to learn from people like you. :)
I love reading your blog! Your sis has my email if you want to invite us.
If you go private just make sure to PLEASE invite me! I was never invited to Megan's and I am sad. I love to see what you guys are up to! Your words are always uplifting and inspiring.
You bet, if you invite me I will keep up with you public, or private.Finn is soooo adorable and you guys are such a wonderful family, how could I resist? I have been debating the same thing myself. My concern is that I have noticed that a lot of the people who read my blog don't comment, but later on they will talk with me on the phone, or at church, or where ever... then I know they are keeping up. I don't want to isolate them..., but I have hit a point where I am not sharing certain things/posts, because anyone can read it. I want to share about adoption and foster care and most of all family, but privacy has really become the main issue for me lately. Ether way I would love to kep up with you. ;0)
I am so sorry to hear this happened to you. I'm also sorry I'm just now responding to this, but I will most certainly continue following you if you go private.
Do what you feel is best for you, your family and your blog and I'd love to come along!
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