Monday, April 21, 2008

String Cheese Takes the Writing Plunge and Deedle Visits the Dentist

My little String Cheese is a very smart girl. She is also cautious. Maybe a perfectionist? She often refuses to try something if she is not 100% sure that she can do it. She is in kindergarten and could read hundreds of words but refused to actually read a book for fear of not knowing a word until about a month ago. Finally I found the Bob Books and now her reading confidence has sky-rocketed and she is doing very well.

Anywho...same thing with writing. She would never write anything unless she knew for sure how to spell every word correctly and would usually only copy down a sentence that she had first asked me to write for her. She has oft times drawn pictures for me depicting her angry or sad feelings towards me. But, yesterday, she took the plunge and wrote me her very first note. I am so proud of her. She wrote it during church. For those of you unversed in Kindergartenese, it says, "I want to be with you because I love you." Today I got my second written note ever. It was not quite as happy as the first.

Deedle had a dentist appointment this morning, which was totally unfair to the Nth degree to String Cheese. All three littles had been to the pediatric dentist (that had toys and gave free tooth brushes and floss and let you choose a prize out of a really cool gum-ball type machine) a few weeks ago and it had been a lovely experience, mostly. Loumy and SC had great teeth. Deedle had four cavities. In an effort to not frighten her, I didn't talk much about what might be unpleasant regarding the second dental visit, rather tried to keep it positive when it came up. So, SC took that to mean that I only loved Deedle because she was the only one that "got" to go to the dentist again. And poor little Deedsy. First of all she has cried every morning since our first visit because I won't give her "melk" because I thought her teeth were not going to rot out and now I find out that even that morning-after-7am-cup DID make them rot out. Sheesh...

Anyway...They didn't really explain what would happen when we got to the dentist. I checked in and Deedle was playing a little video game when a nurse walked out to the waiting room and said, "Here, drink this." Deedle did it and was quite horrified at the taste. Then the nurse or whatever she is said, "Keep on eye on her. It will take about 10 minutes," and left. What will take 10 minutes? I "kept my eye on her" and soon she was laughing and tumbling around and asked, "Why is this room so hard to balance in? This is a really hard balancing room." Then the nurse was back and picked her up. Loopy little Deedle just stared glazedly at me.

"Can't I come back with her?" I asked this stranger that was carrying off my daughter.

"Nope," she said pleasantly. "We'll be back in a minute."

Twenty minutes later I see a different nurse hauling Deedle out but only holding her under her arms and trying to make her walk over to the machine to pick her toy. Before I could force my way back there, she had one of those sticky-hand things that I know she wouldn't have chosen if she were lucid. I picked up my little pile of tooth fillings and carried her up to the front. I requested another tooth brush and floss because I knew she'd be asking for those later. I was warned that she might hallucinate, which she did over the next hour.

At home I tried to get Deedsy to relax and watch a video but she was very woozy and in quite a bewildered state which included a lot of crying. String Cheese is very compassionate when it comes to wanting to help others herself. She just doesn't like so much to see me helping and comforting somebody other than her. It was in this setting that String Cheese delivered the second note.
Again, just in case you need any translation, "I feel like I don't have enough love. I am sad. Please be nicer to me."

8 comments:

Welcome! said...

Oh the notes and the dentist story are hilarious....I am so glad you are saving those...I found one of Jessica's I am going to post...it is kind of funny...how I would have loved a video of "Deedle" in her loopy state.....

Nancy said...

Oh I love those notes!! Daisy loves to write things down even though she is quite possibly the worst speller you've ever known. What on earth about the dentist though?!! Why couldn't you go back? It sounds crazy!!

Perla said...

i was going to video her but by the time i had a camera all she would do is cry and wanted to be held.

i don't know why they wouldn't let me come back. i guess its like when you drop your kid off in the nursery and they just try to make you run away so that they will stop crying. sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. the dentist seemed to work out fine. she was too loopy to know who was taking her or why

Lover of Sweets said...

Cool post. i especially enjoyed those notes from SC. I get similar ones from my girls. Mostly from NoniGirl and how she doe's feel loved right now.
I was wondering if there were any cool hallucinations?
it was cool that she realized that the room was hard to balance in!

Lori said...

ohmytotallyfreakingheck!
I'm laughing about how brilliant it is that your daughter can exactly express what she's thinking. I'm sure it's not great to be on the receiving end of that all the time (wait until she's 14) but that's really spectacular that she a) feels comfortable enough with her mom to voice her own opinon, b) she knows what it is she's feeling, even if she's completely missing the bigger picture and c) that she's trying her hand at writing.

I LOVE YOUR FAMILY! Thanks for making my day!

juli said...

I love the notes - what a treasure!
But the dentist - not sure I would have taken it so well. I like to be given the option of being with my kid and then leaving when they start biting. (That would be my now 13 y/o who would throw up and/or bite the poor, poor dentist.)

Mugsy said...

I love "kindergartenese"..And I love the first notes she has given you..But sweeter still that my little deedle found it hard to balance in this room. Good stuff!! I wish i had a little of the unbalancing medicine...ooop..I mean...no i don't...

Gracie J said...

Oh dentisting sucks! Ana is eight now and still loathes getting x-rays. What is a parent to do? You basically have to have your child go through x-rays, mouth prodding and fillings (luckily, we've only had teeth pulled and never fillings).

I love notes. They are the best. I decided at the beginning of this school year that Ana was going to start having school lunch at least a few days a week, so the first day that she knew she was going to be having it, she tried slyly to "not feel good." Finally, she just gave a note to my mom that said, "I'm scard of having scool lunch." The truth always comes out in the notes!